Can you think back to a moment in your life when you were feeling at your very best? The planets had somehow collided and your hair, make-up and outfit choices all felt right? Your confidence was at an all time high, yes? How did that make you feel? What effect did that have on your posture and body language? How decisive were you at that moment? What effect did it have on the people around you? Were you proud to be you at this moment in your life? Whether this memory is just a one off, a small group of moments or how you feel most of the time, it is not coincidence that our self-esteem and confidence levels are directly affected by the image that we choose to project on to others. With 50% of individuals suffering form self-esteem issues (this is set to rise with the pressures of modern day living and the instant comparisons that we can make on line) wouldn’t it be nice if we could flip this around and teach people the power of personal branding and just what this can do for inner confidence.
Not to bore you with statistics but I was shocked to learn that 54% of women rarely feel proud of their appearance and 56% of men are often upset by their looks. The positive thing about these numbers is that they can be improved!
Coco Chanel once said “The badly dressed woman will be remembered for her clothes, a well dressed woman will be remembered for the woman”
What you wear is key to inner confidence. First impressions happen every time you walk in to a new situation where you don’t know every person in that room. It could be the school playground, a christening, a wedding, arriving at university for the first time, going to a job interview or starting a new class or activity. Would it surprise you to learn that first impressions are formed within that first 20 seconds of you entering a room and with only 7% accounting for what you actually have to say, the rest comes down to your appearance, your tone, your mannerisms and your overall body language. This is why shows like “Take Me Out” are so successful with their “No Likey No Lighty” tag lines. It is built around a first impression model and they have a surprising success rate for dates that end with a kiss! Think about the similar principle of speed dating or speed networking, essentially we are using the same first impression phenomenon to attract or repel future connections.
So, what is your personal branding saying about you? What 3 words would others choose to describe you? Are you happy with those assessments? Do they fit with how you would like to be seen and remembered? How you look on the outside reflects how you feel on the inside, as well as affecting your attitude, your decisions and what plans you choose to make. Getting it right for you is essential to growing your self esteem and inner confidence.
“True elegance and style comes form being confident and feeling comfortable in your own skin.” Tory Burch (fashion designer).
So, I ask you this as a final thought, consider what you want people to notice about you in that first 20 seconds and start there. Not every trend is going to work for everybody or on every body type. Determine what works for you, what makes you feel good, empowered, confident, powerful, trustworthy, strong (whatever the descriptions you choose for yourself and your own personal branding) and there you’ll have your starting point.
If confidence is holding you back and you’d like to learn more about how you can improve this, then why not consider booking a place on my brand new “Confidence Lab” workshops. Alongside coach, Trisha Barker, here we will teach you some simple yet effective techniques to kick start your confidence journey.
To book a place simply follow this link: https://www.universe.com/events/the-confidence-lab-tickets-ramsbottom-YT641S
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